One of the key ingredients of a strong and resilient relationship is the ability to adapt flexibly to changed circumstances. While flexibility is helpful, the way we respond to change can also reveal the ways in which power and responsibility operate in our relationship. This post addresses the question: when change comes, how do we decide who should now do what? Continue reading
In my previous post, I introduced the idea of building relationship resilience by taking responsibility for how we behave during stressful times. In this post, I’d like to write about how to use mindfulness to increase your relationship self-awareness and your awareness of your partner. Continue reading
In my previous post, I introduced the idea of building relationship resilience by tackling external stresses and understanding conflict. In this post, I’d like to talk about how we can take a look at the way we’re trying to cope and its impact on our partner. Continue reading
It can be a big ask suddenly to find yourself living with your partner in isolation with no clear end in sight. Much as we might love each other, we aren’t really designed to spend quite so much time in close proximity. As a relationship therapist, I have been thinking about ways that might help us cope better with this situation. In particular, I’m wondering whether this might be an opportunity to build more resilience into our relationships. Continue reading